Children’s Bill Of Rights – Right to Control Their Own Time and Space – Children’s Responsibilities

Thursday, May 31st, 2012

The following is part of a series of articles on the rights and responsibilities of children and of families. On our site, we’ve published a Children’s Bill Of Rights, with all of the sections in the bill. You can take a look at Children’s Bill of Rights.

Let’s look at the rights and attendant responsibilities. First we’ll show the right, then in italics and in red, the child’s responsibility. I’ll follow each of these with my comments. I’ll keep the comment on each of these short.

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Right to Control Their Own Time and Space

Every child has the right to decide for himself where he will go or be. Every child has the right to determine how their time shall be used.

You have the responsibility to listen and try to understand when your parents or other adults explain why they want to move you somewhere, or when your time is to be used a certain way. You have the responsibility to understand that you are a part of a family or other group, and that sometimes they need your help.

Freedom of motion and to use time as one wishes is very critical, an absolute necessity in developing a sane child.  That said, we all of us live with others and within the structure of a family of some sort, a group, a city, a nation, a world.  Participation and a certain level of cooperation are required as the grease that keeps the “machine” of civilization working smoothly.  This is where things like “manners” and law come into play.

Unless one longs for anarchy, there are times when he must “play along”.  If… Read Entire Article…

4 comments on “Children’s Bill Of Rights – Right to Control Their Own Time and Space – Children’s Responsibilities”

  1. Children should Not have so many rights. They have no idea of how to be responsible, until such a time as a child shows he/she can handle responsibility then they can handle Rights.
    Children look at adults now like they have two heads, they don’t feel they have to do anything. They need to grow up hopefully before they reach 18 enough to handle all These Rights.
    Schools are over run with students, who think they have the right to act anyway they want, disrupting others from learning, bullying, getting away with disrespecting teachers.
    I agree it is good to question authority, but it should be the Parents on the child’s behalf, unless the student is being verbally or physically being made to answer a question. The students in these cases, yes, should be able to answer and have the same respect of being listened to, that they themselves want. With open ears.
    I have seen the thugs run the schools, it is not pretty. Teachers staying in rooms so they can’t see and so do not have to deal with situations. Schools changing handbooks so students who need to protect themselves can’t, from bad teachers or bullies.
    We need to go back to teaching kids to respect, to know the Constitution, Bill of Rights. Then when they graduate or before, as they do mature at different levels, they Can handle Their Rights.

  2. Home schooling is a Right that Every household has, regardless of what our so called representatives say. These elected people or appointed by elected people that are trying to Take Away Our Rights. Our Children’s and Grandchildren’s Rights are going to be a mute point if we keep Letting them take our RIGHTS.
    We have FreeSpeechZones now, Some States have taken away the Second Amendment, do you recall Any of Our Rights saying EXCEPT Anywhere? They don’t.
    Our Right to privacy gone with drones, our Right to undue search or seizure gone ( TSA, gun seizures after Katrina-not in flooded areas, Boston searches (yes, catch the guy, it was a home owner that found him and called cops).
    We have to stop giving up Our Rights for safety, then saying CHILDREN have a bill of rights.
    We have to keep Our RIGHTS first, before they get theirs.
    I for one will NOT take orders from a child. They can kick and scream till the cows come home.
    Teach RESPECT, CONSTITUTION, BILL OF RIGHTS

  3. What happened to schools calling Parents FIRST when a child acts out? They would have to leave work and come to the school.
    Now, it’s call the cops if the kid looks cross eyed at a teacher. CALL the Parents. put them in a empty room or the Principles office until the Parent or Guardian gets there. It’s being Responsible for your kid.
    This is where, dare I say it, Parental punishments come into play. Yes, back when kids got spanked, mouth got popped if they used a word or talked disrespectful.
    We grew up and we are Responsible, we Value Our Rights. Kids now are getting everything handed to them, they have no respect for anyone or anything. They feel entitled.
    Well, they are not, they need to get their butts some values and morals and a clue from somewhere.

  4. Hello, Jackie,

    You are certainly impassioned about your views. But you are not particularly sane. Let’s look at a few points pragmatically. You wrote:

    “Children should Not have so many rights. They have no idea of how to be responsible, until such a time as a child shows he/she can handle responsibility then they can handle Rights.”

    By this definition, I’m afraid that most adults probably don’t deserve many rights, either. Yet, your whole argument favors adult rights. Most adults behave, at least in a few areas (some of them critically important) very irresponsibly. I don’t necessarily accept that age = a sense of responsibility, and we all know adults whose behavior makes a lie of that argument. And we probably all know children who do have an innate and fine sense of responsibility. While I would agree that children require GUIDANCE, and that the guidance they receive should come mostly from their home and family, I also believe that as a child demonstrates the ability to behave responsibly, regardless of age, they have earned rights. And as an adult behaves irresponsibly, they have not. One essential argument I make is that with rights come responsibilities, which I believe you agree with. But then, with responsibility should come rights.

    “Children look at adults now like they have two heads, they don’t feel they have to do anything.”

    That’s a big generality, and as is true of almost all generalities, not true when one looks at specifics. I’m sure you know children who behave as you describe. I’ve known A FEW. But they are far and away in the minority. To paint ALL children, as you have, with this dismal generality is both untrue and a gross disservice to children.

    “Schools are over run with students, who think they have the right to act anyway they want, disrupting others from learning, bullying, getting away with disrespecting teachers.”

    Yes, well, read the rest of my articles. If your future, your life, was being stolen from you hour by hour and day by day by a destructive system that hardly knows your name, and that rarely acknowledges any of your uniqueness or dreams (read “schools”), you might find some interesting ways to protest as well. I NEVER condone violence or bullying, NOT EVER. But I do understand what I believe to be much of the root of these problems in schools. Teachers largely bring these reactions in children on by treating kids like they’re in prison, not school. If you do everything in your power to convince a child that he deserves to be treated like a criminal (by IN FACT treating him like a criminal), why then would he not behave like one? (By the way, the argument you make in favor of enforcing respect with violence in your later writings also would convince a child that he’s a criminal. Is that what we want to do? I think you do, and your view is truly repulsive.)

    “I agree it is good to question authority, but it should be the Parents on the child’s behalf, unless the student is being verbally or physically being made to answer a question.”

    Oh, well, nonsense, and rather ugly nonsense. When would a child then be allowed to come into his or her own? You do not get to determine when a child asks questions! No one does, and thank heaven for that. That’s how we test ourselves against the world, and that’s how we learn. Yours is a formula to create rather stupid sheep, and frankly, is shameful.

    “I have seen the thugs run the schools, it is not pretty. Teachers staying in rooms so they can’t see and so do not have to deal with situations.”

    Well, I’ve already responded to why this happens. Teachers have only themselves to blame. And by the way, you don’t mention the fact that some 6-10% of all students (that’s some 4-7 MILLIONS students, per the Department of Education report of 2004) will be SEXUALLY ABUSED by TEACHERS OR STAFF. So, talking about thugs in schools-take a look at teachers. I believe that many, many students feel they need protection FROM TEACHERS. I’ve spoken to MANY parents who have told me so about their kids.

    Your diatribe about our rights in your second entry is a separate set of issues, and each one may or may not be worthy of discussion. But that is NOT what the article is about, and I’m not going to respond here except to this:

    We have to keep Our RIGHTS first, before they get theirs. I for one will NOT take orders from a child. They can kick and scream till the cows come home.”

    Well, who ASKED you to take orders from a child??? Wow! You seem to REALLY not like kids very much. It’s people who write things like this that make the rest of the world question the sanity of homeschoolers and of homeschooling, and again, I find it over the top and shameful. Frankly, YOU seem to be doing a lot of unmotivated pointless kicking and screaming.

    Also, as to “TEACH RESPECT,” well, respect isn’t taught – it’s EARNED. Behave like a responsible and loving adult toward a child and they will respect you. Behave in a dictatorial or thuggish manner, and I doubt seriously you’ll receive (or deserve) much respect. Just because you are physically capable of fathering or mothering a child does not automatically make you worthy of ANYONE’S respect. Just because you’re big enough to strike a child and cause them pain does not in any way make you deserving of their respect. Welcome to the 21st century. The definition today of a “father” or “mother” is broader than “able to conceive.” You really need to grow up and catch up.

    Where we DO agree is the idea of a school calling in the family before they call anyone else to deal with their child. But you are wrong (so wrong) again when you write:

    “This is where, dare I say it, Parental punishments come into play. Yes, back when kids got spanked, mouth got popped if they used a word or talked disrespectful. We grew up and we are Responsible, we Value Our Rights. Kids now are getting everything handed to them, they have no respect for anyone or anything. They feel entitled. Well, they are not, they need to get their butts some values and morals and a clue from somewhere.”

    Well, that’s particularly noxious and childish, and really again, the sort of thing that makes homeschoolers look crazy. Of course, so far as homeschoolers go, YOU’RE BY FAR THE EXCEPTION AND NOT THE RULE!

    No one ever learned anything good or useful or valuable from a great big person, one many times their size, who beat or struck them. I had a VERY abusive stepfather, and what I learned was to avoid and to fear him – NOT to RESPECT HIM, NOT to OBEY him, not frankly to care whether he lived or died. Just to avoid and fear him. Any adult, vastly physically stronger than a child, who strikes the child, IS ABUSIVE PERIOD.

    I feel sorry for your children, Jackie. If you practice what you preach, I would absolutely consider you to be an abusive parent. And NO, in response to another of your repulsive generalities, many kids do not have “everything handed to them.” Many kids in the world live below the poverty line, so again, you are as wrong as it’s possible to be.

    You’ve had your say. I find most of what you said about children VILE. I think you’re frankly a textbook bully who believes in enforcing your views with pain. I expect there will come a day when your children are grown up, and they will reward you for your awful approach to child-rearing, and doubtless with a fair amount of hatred. You want respect from a child with this approach. Well, lots of luck.

    DO NOT WRITE AGAIN, Jackie. You are very much not welcome here.

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